Parent picking on me?

[mimi]

This dad is a coward. Either come out and say what you need to say or shut up with the negative remarks. Kids can sense the hostility.
I had a dcb who would cry when his mom picked him up because he didn't like his play interrupted. Lots of kids do this.
Obviously dad has issues elsewhere in his life and chooses you to bully with his remarks to make himself feel better. He is a immature person.
You being termed over the yogurt cup incident (if you can even call it that!) was not provider misconduct. I refuse (I used to) to take parental issues on my shoulders otherwise I would be up all night thinking about them.
We have a tough job dealing with all these parental personalities. It is like a juggling act sometimes trying to satisfy everyone. If you are happyand confident with your program then don't let them get you down.
If dcd said something negative, ignore it, if he says something else then I would just say in my talking to a toddler voice "you don't sound very happy, is there anything I can help you with?" and smile. Grumpy people are sometimes looking for altercations and they hate it when you are pleasant and proffessional back to them.
Good luck dealing with this guy.

[Sandbox Sally]

That comment, "do you even watch DCB" would have me seeing red, and would likely warrant a written warning. How dare he!

How on earth is it your fault that his kid doesn't want to leave daycare? I am sure it hurts his feelings, but he's a grown man, and he needs to get a handle on his emotions so that he doesn't take out his resentment on you. It's pretty darned normal for a kid to not want to leave all his friends to go home and likely watch mom or dad cook dinner.

I could tell you a crazy story about what just happened to me re: parents taking a termination badly, but if you've been reading the forum the last few days, you likely already know my tale of woe!

Good luck. Don't let it go. Nobody gets to talk to you like that.

[playfelt]

The only time I have issues with a child leaving seems to be when we are outside at pick up time and the kids are running around and don't want to go. Inside I am more likely to get tears if it isn't their parent at the door - especially if parents come out of order.

I had the same red flag feeling that there is an issue between parent and child and child may indeed be afraid of the parent and not feel safe with him. I know you said you never talk about one parent to the other but when the welfare of the child is involved you just might have to. When the issue happens with both parents it is one thing but when it is with just one parent then you may be dealing with a more important problem.

It's too bad you couldn't say only mom will do pickups. I know there have been a couple cases talked about on this forum where that was the solution to not having to deal with a bully dad.

[Crayola kiddies]

If the dad comes at the same time everyday have the child ready for when dad walks in and say "yay there's daddy have a great night see you tomorrow" then turn and walk away ..... Its also helpful if you have a gate at your entrance way and that way the child can't go back to the playroom.