Tricky Question

[mom-in-alberta]

You say "it wouldn't be KIND"? Um, I think that you have been more than kind!!
This is NOT your fault. Don't take this on yourself. It sounds like you have a pretty clear policy on what is expected from daycare families, and that they have been flouting it all along anyway.

I would suggest that you sit talk to mom and lay out the situation. IF you are going to continue care, if will be under these stipulations... and then tell her what you need from them.
If you want to help, but can not do so in a "professional" manner anymore, then tell them that! Let them know that you are there for them, but that the current situation can no longer continue.

Good luck!!!