The new kid!

[Mambia]

I have the exact scenario. My dcb is almost 20 mths and can't do anything for himself. Same thoughts on this one where mommy must do everything for him. I hand him a spoon and he looks at me like a deer in headlights! I try putting on his boots and thought it was natural reaction to push your foot into the shoe but nope!! Same with putting jacket on, instead of giving me his arm, he lifts his foot up or just stands there. Very frustrating and just don't get why mom keeps him in 'baby Zone' instead of encouraging development and independence. That being said, the other dck bulldoze him in a way because he simply doesn't react if someone takes his toy away or gets in his space. Just makes for a lot of hands on/intervening because I almost feel sorry for him. His vocabulary consists of about 5 words and the rest is either sign language (I totally am against signing as I feel it delays speech) and or mumbling. If it were my child, I would be a bit concerned but it's not so not my place to say anything. Mom is obviously ok with his development and makes comments about all the wonderful progress she 'thinks' he is making at home!!! Yikes, I feel like shedding some light on her as truth of the matter is he is with me 80% of the time (when awake). I guess you just have to go along with it and hope that they learn through a stimulating environment and other dc kids.