OMG this sounds a lot like the 2.5 year old I just terminated! He would have fits coming into the house in the morning (I could hear him screaming "nooooooo" at his mom on the way up the driveway) and fits on the way out (screaming, hitting his parents, pushing his mom, wanting everything to be his way)...while he never hit or pushed me, he did scream "no" all the time at me and the other kids...constant problems with the other kids. After 6 months with him I realized why I was not making progress...his mom thought his behaviour was normal 2 year old behaviour...she didn't see anything to fix (she would say things like "he's good at home" after having dragged him kicking and screaming and hitting her out of the house). That is when I decided to terminate. This is my first week without him and I cannot even beging to describe how wonderful my days are now! I had a new 2 year old start yesterday and even with the extra energy required to get a new child adjusted, my days are sooooooooooooooo peaceful and calm. And quiet! Even the other parents are commenting on how quiet it is now. My teenaged son asked me as he left for school this morning "It's so quiet, are some of the kids away today?"...nope....I had a full crew including brand new 2 year old...my ears are thanking me right now...I didn't realize how loud and stressful it was until now. Soooo....I guess you know what my vote is! If the mom is not on board with changing the behaviour, it will no change. I say terminate and get your peace back!