I have the kids “go play toys". My involvement is to tell them thus is the expectation. I stay out of their play except for supervising and enforcing the rules of play. We have extensive collections of toys and they are “no adult needed" toys. The toys I have that require any adult are not accessible to the kids. I get them out when “I" want them out. If the kids have too much adult involved play they give clear signs that you are doing too much adult. The first indicator is they can't entertain themselves with the no adult needed toys.

If they become reliant on adult to play I quit doing anything other than “go play toys" until I see they are able to completely entertain themselves and follow our toy playing rules. It may take a few days , weeks, or months. I follow this with every generation of kids.

I grew up without ever having an adult entertain me and my agemates. It wasn't even a consideration. Adults need to stay out of their day to day play. Then when you do something that does require an adult they appreciate it very much.

My kids learn things like puzzles, playdoh, etc VERY fast because they are SO grateful to have an activity where an adult is involved. They focus and sponge up the activity. If their happiness becomes hinged on adult then I back off and return them to “go play".