I am at my absolute wits end with my son. I have been running the dc for 11 months now and my main reason for doing a day home was to provide a safe, loving, educational, place for my son and still earn some income. Now he causes me so much grief and heart ache litteraly I don't want to spend any time with him, and I am so stressed out by his constant bad behavior that I am sick to my stomach.

History...when I first started the dc he had the usual trouble of sharing, that was quickly remedied with simply talking with him and explaining that he needed to share some toys, and others were special for his room. Now, the group of dck I have all play nicely together, and for some reason my son has turned into the instigator of all the missbehaving. He is running, fighting, not sharing, not wanting to participate with the group and showing lots of anger. We have addressed the anger and he seems to understand that if he feels angery or frustrated to take a breath and count to 4 or even 10 if he needs to.

I hug him throughout the day as well as I do with the other children. I don't feel like it's a matter of attention. I have asked him to be a leader and the little ones look up to him, but if he is behaving badly then they will too. If it seems like I am all over the place I am. I am so upset, I have been trying everything to brib him to be good, take away his favorite toys, take away all his toys....I don't know what else to do with him. By the time nap time rolls around I am exhausted from constant reminders to him about his behavior, then he won't even stay in his room for nap time, so I continue to be on edge and not relax. Time out's don't seem to work. not sure what else to do...but I can't have him continue to mis behave and what bugs me the most is that he used to be excited every day and now all he does is complain about everything. I don't want this for breakfast, I don't want to color, I don't want to paint...Please help with any advise! I am ready to send him to another day home, but that's not what I want to do.