What can I do with my 4 yr old?

[gcj]

Oh, I feel your pain. My son was a huge challenge for me as well. And on top of it because of when his birthday falls, he was almost 6 before he started kindergarten (in Quebec). His last year he did 3 mornings/week in preschool and the year before it was 2. We both needed it...badly!

I would try letting him spend more time on his own in his room. He doesn't have to always be a part of daycare. That's one of the benefits of having daycare in his home. You already mentioned his toys in his room...that's important. He's also old enough that perhaps he doesn't have to "nap" like the others, but have some sort of earned quiet time as oppose to sleeping. If he still needs the sleep it can be less time with some earned quiet activity as well.....

You'll get through it! You both will. One day soon he'll be off the school and your daycare will be yours! Until then breathe, compromise. Remember that he is not an equal to the other kids. Like it or not there will double standards all the time having your own kids there, and it's ok! Once I gave up on my kids being equal to the others, it got easier. And I'd just say to the others, it's his home. He already shares his home, his toys, his food, his mommy....so yes, he gets x special treatment!