What can I do with my 4 yr old?

[jaylupa]

Oh my goodness, thank you all so much for your advice! . I truly balled my eyes out most of the evening (time of the month makes me more emotional too). I just felt like I was doing something wrong, and I don't want to label by own son as the "bad boy". He is well beyond his 4 yrs in pre-school type lessons, and not just because I teach him things, but he is truly wanting to know everything about everything! He is highy exhausting as a result. So yes he wears me out.

There is some great tips from so many of you. Thank you!

With time outs he sits in the same chair and place as any other dck, and I will let him watch tv sometimes upstairs for nap/quiet time because he doesn't always need a nap.

My biggest concern is the preception or example the other kids see because if he is always in a time out, I don't want them to act out and have a room full of caos. Is that crazy?

[Fun&care]

My biggest concern is the preception or example the other kids see because if he is always in a time out, I don't want them to act out and have a room full of caos. Is that crazy?

I think you are looking at it the wrong way around. By seeing your son in a time out the other kids will see that there are consequences to bad behavior. If you are CONSISTENT with your son, put him in a time out EVERY time he acts out, he will snap out of it and start listening. If you give him ANY chances, he will continue to act out because there is not always a consequence to his behavior, so why not try to get away with it? Get what I'm sayin?

[gcj]

I agree with fun&care. They'll see how NOT to act....that there are consequences and they can see that he's not having fun. That would not be a huge concern.

I too, cried many times going through these challenges.

I didn't mean using his room as a time-out, but as his own place to go...his escape. His own hangout away from it all with his own toys doing his own thing. Don't know if someone misunderstood me or if I'm the one misunderstanding.

Hope you're having a well-deserved glass of wine!