Bad experiences with day care providers

[dodge__driver11]

wow she truly is nuts

Here here Sunnydays I too could be working in a very "low maintanance" job...but I wanted to be there for my boy.

[sunnydays]

I am all for debate and constructive critisism, but Darasmommy, can you please tell me what is constructive in saying that we are all a bunch of lazy clods and nobody should send their kids to home daycares?

[dodge__driver11]

@ Sunny days Exactly...

And if you think I am lazy and whatever you said to me before....


I actually have an ECE student for the next two weeks so she is busy with my kidlets while I just do mindless activity for a bit....

[mimi]

Why is she still here? I suggest responding to darasmommy is a waste of time and pershaps we and definitely me should stop trying to reason with the unreasonable.

[dodge__driver11]

@ cocoon... Zing...

lol

[Serendipity]

I have only two things to add to this long drawn out thread:

1. I am eternally grateful that Darasmommy does NOT live in my area! (Whew! Dodged a bullet there)
and
2. I am also eternally grateful I am not Dara as I would be mortified that my mother is so self-righteous and uppity that she cannot find a more constructive and beneficial way to improve the parent-provider relationship.

Like any relationship, it takes two to make it work. I can see why Dara's mommy has a hard time making things work with her provider (or past provider)...as she has nothing substantial to offer and the only thing she cannot let go is what other providers do at some park....

I don't know what park you are going to and I don't care, but for the love of Pete, STOP going there if it bothers you so much!!! Good lord woman.....find something better to do with your time. I have only been on this site twice to read a few posts and both times my experience has been ruined by you!!

[mamaof4]

OK- ladies- please. We can disagree--- we can debate but do so without attacking one another.

[Momof4]

OK- ladies- please. We can disagree--- we can debate but do so without attacking one another.

I completely agree with you, but I don't want to be a part of a forum where someone can come on and abuse and attack us at their whim. And I really don't want to leave this forum because I enjoy it very much. I'm surprised that you don't seem to understand the way the caregivers feel at being attacked by this parent, but respect your decision as the moderator. Many people have tried to reason with darasmommy and suggest positive answers for her such as finding a great caregiver next time or a therapist and I think that we have been more than reasonable on our side.

[Serendipity]

I completely agree with you, but I don't want to be a part of a forum where someone can come on and abuse and attack us at their whim. And I really don't want to leave this forum because I enjoy it very much. I'm surprised that you don't seem to understand the way the caregivers feel at being attacked by this parent, but respect your decision as the moderator. Many people have tried to reason with darasmommy and suggest positive answers for her such as finding a great caregiver next time or a therapist and I think that we have been more than reasonable on our side.

I joined this forum several months ago but just recently posted for the first time. I too appreciate from a parent's viewpoint the discussion threads here and do feel as though the responses to Darasmommy were very informational, nonjudgemental and calm at first but then she was allowed to continue her ranting without actually adding anything substantial to the conversation and that was the moment I began to doubt my membership here.

I love differing viewpoints and different opinions as that is what makes the world go round...kwim? I enjoy reading perspectives that I hadn't considered before but the second someone starts getting rude and condescending to others, I cringe because that is EXACTLY what is wrong with society now days. When one person believes that their way is the ONLY way, it is impossible to have an intelligent conversation with them anymore and mud slinging begins.

I know that I will no longer be visiting this forum if people are going to be allowed to continue being so rude and mean to other posters. I have seen several places where a moderator has stepped in and said that everyone should play nice but not once has a moderator actually called out the person who started it.

I am both a provider and a parent and I think that respect is an absolute must from BOTH parties and so far from what I have read here, that hasn't been the case.

I sincerely hope that everyone can just agree to disagree.

[jodaycare]

The only person attacking people is Darasmommy. She came on here out of the blue and started telling us what horrible people we are.