Bad experiences with day care providers

[Momof4]

To all of the other caregivers on this site, I just sent a report to admin regarding this ridiculous post and the behaviour of this poster. Hopefully something can be done to rectify the pathetic situation.

[mimi]

Oh darasmommy you are like a car wreck, you tell yourself not to look but then you do. Sigh, my bad.
I think your problem is you would love to stay home with your little one however due to circumstances you can't which is the norm now a days. You come across as jealous of the providers as you know this is a job you could never do (as we are often told by the parents we provide care for) so you have to leave your little one and work outside the home. I hope you find quality daycare for your child and a counsellor for yourself. Go ahead with your threat of "telling everyone you know" about daycare providers. We can with stand the scrutiny. If they know you like we are starting to, they will take what you say as coming from a mean spirited, jealous and unhappy woman and that's what bullies are made of.

[country girl]

To all of the other caregivers on this site, I just sent a report to admin regarding this ridiculous post and the behaviour of this poster. Hopefully something can be done to rectify the pathetic situation.

I just did as well - I'm all for people expressing their opinion but not in a rude & ignorant way.

[mamaof4]

Hi ladies I am watching this thread. Sure there are bad providers- we have all seen them, but please try and be constructive.

[dodge__driver11]

All Darasmommy has done is be all around rude, why is she still here? It is obvious she is here to perpetuate (sp) streotypes, and make all the hard workers here feel bad

[Momof4]

Hi ladies I am watching this thread. Sure there are bad providers- we have all seen them, but please try and be constructive.

Thank you mamaof4 but have you read all 13 of the posts by darasmommy? They are all very rude. Yes, this is a public forum and parents are more than welcome to ask us questions and learn how we operate our daycares. We welcome that and are happy to help and listen and learn from each other, but we all do want the posts to be constructive.

[Inspired by Reggio]

If members do not want to be exposed to Darasmommy's posts just reminder that the forum offers an 'ignore' option ... just go to your control panels and enter her user name under the ignore feature and her posts will no longer show up in threads just a little memo that says 'this users post has been blocked as per your request' ... than you do not need to worry about being offended by anything she says just ignore her and go on about your days

[sunnydays]

Well, I for one, do not feel bad because of darasmommy's ignorant and ill-informed comments. While she is not being constructive in her criticism and she obviously holds some kind of grudge against home daycare providers for reasons of her own, I welcome it as an opportunity to set the record straight. The reason her comments cannot make me feel bad is that I am extremely PROUD of the work that I do. I have a university degree and had a good-paying government job which I left in order to open my own daycare because this is what I WANT to do and I am good at it. I am not doing daycare because I have no other options or I wanted an easy way to make money while sitting on my behind. If I had wanted to find an easy job where i had lots of down time while making good money, I would have stayed with government...now that was the easiest job I ever had with the best pay and benefits. Providing childcare is the most challenging job I have ever done and I know most people can't even begin to imagine how we do it...plus this is not a "get rich" job as most of us just barely make ends meet after we pay for expenses such as quality food, educational materials, toys, outings, etc. But we do it because we love doing it and we know we are making a difference in these little people's lives and the lives of their parents...a positive difference! I don't know where you live Darasmommy, but in the two neighbourhoods I have lived in while running my daycare, I have never seen ANY daycare providers painting their nails or neglecting the children in their care in any way. Yes, we may takl to each other and offer much needed support, advice, encrouragement, etc and we may sit down as it is one of the few points in the day when we can actually sit for a moment depending on the ages of the kids we have and the business of the park etc. But this does not mean we are not watching or providing quality care. It means we are giving the children a chance to explore and burn their energy while we supervise their play. And as for this forum, well let me just ask you this, have you never complained or vented about something at your workplace? If you answer no, I would guess that you are either lying or extremely unusual, because most people need to vent every now and then and most people need support from colleagues and advice on tricky situations. This forum is the only chance for that kind of support and peer mentoring that most of us have and it is invaluable to us. It does not mean we don't like what we do or that we are not good daycare providers...it means we are human and to spend 9-10 hours with 5 small children and no other adults, we need a little peer support at naptime to help us with issues that affect our day. Perhaps you should keep your eye out for some good home daycare providers and see some of the wonderful care that they provide instead of honing in on what you consider to be poor caregiving skills. I would love for you to talk to the parents of the kids in my care as each and every one would tell you how happy their kids are to come to my house every day and how happy they are as parents to have somewhere safe, happy, friendly, encouraging, stimulating, clean, organized and educational for their little ones every day. And I am willing to bet that most of us on here could say the same thing.

[dodge__driver11]

wow she truly is nuts

Here here Sunnydays I too could be working in a very "low maintanance" job...but I wanted to be there for my boy.

[sunnydays]

I am all for debate and constructive critisism, but Darasmommy, can you please tell me what is constructive in saying that we are all a bunch of lazy clods and nobody should send their kids to home daycares?