Bad experiences with day care providers

[treeholm]

Thank you treeholm...I have my degree in Applied Linguistics and was an ESL teacher until I opened my daycare...I wanted to point this out, but decided not to bother and did not want to embarras anyone for their incorrect assumption that oxymoron was something used in name calling (I suppose it was confused with moron). I am glad you cleared this up for everyone involved

Sunnydays... I probably should have resisted the urge to correct Darasmommy but I'm afraid I have less restraint that you do... I've been known to take a sharpie out of my purse and correct grammatical errors on store signs... yup, not kidding. Ikea... My daughter was mortified LOL

[treeholm]

1. Physiological refers to the body. I believe what you meant is "psychological". And that statement makes no sense whatsoever as I called NO ONE any names. I'm pretty sure I'm not the idiot in this scenario.

Oh, and while I'm on a roll with correcting errors... physiological does NOT refer to the body, it refers to living systems. PHYSICAL refers to the body. Psychological refers to the mind. Yup, my second degree was in neuro-physiology... I think I'm becoming insufferable, sorry....

[Wonderwiper]

Ha ha! I'm a bit of a grammar corrector too! Just wanted to mention that not all posters have English as a first language and use the wrong words sometimes and others may use mobile devices that insert strange words with auto correct but we all know what they meant to write.

[treeholm]

Ha ha! I'm a bit of a grammar corrector too! Just wanted to mention that not all posters have English as a first language and use the wrong words sometimes and others may use mobile devices that insert strange words with auto correct but we all know what they meant to write.

Great point wonderwiper, I did not consider the fact that darasmommy might not speak English as her first language. I just became incensed that she was criticizing the care providers on this site; women of whom I have become quite protective. It was the mother bear instinct that made me point out errors. Auto correct can also be a nightmare; so true!

[mamaof4]

ok- grammar?? let it rest already.

[sunnydays]

Since when is a discussion about grammar offensive? I don't think the last few posts were attacking anyone nor were they mean, abusive, etc. It was simply a discussion...nobody was being singled out for using incorrect grammar. And yes, there are certainly people here whose first language is not English and I assumed that was where the confusion about "oxymoron" came in and it was why I did not comment...because as someone who has taught ESL learners for many years, I know how embarrassing it can be to have your errors pointed out. I sincerely hope that nobody feels their grammar, spelling, etc will be picked apart on this forum! I know I am horrible for typos...I can't type to save my life, so my letters get reversed, left out, etc.

ok- grammar?? let it rest already.

[dodge__driver11]

LOL!! You know what? That is why you see me editing my posts so often because I see a typo or a missused word heh.

[gramma]

I understand your frustration but its not fair to name providers because as we all know there are 2 sides to every story and not to say that someone is not being truthful but when disagreements happen it is possible for both sides to remember things differently. Alternatively, as a provider it would not be fair for me to post the names of parents who i have had difficulty with over the years. best to learn from each situation and move forward.

I also wonder if we can specify who these bad providers are in this forum. I wonder if that is allowed...I guess admin might be able to answer this.
They do not participate in parents review programs.

[gramma]

I agree with you that we all work for money and yes the provider did work for the day BUt the child is only part time and she had been paid for many sick days so why couldnt she switch the day? What i mean is if the child comes mon, tues, wed but was sick and mom paid for those days but the child was better on friday why should she pay for another day? That comes down to flexibility in my mind. having said that, the parent should have specified that when she asked for a "favour" that she wanted the day for free.

I'm going to try an keep this as non-judgemental as possible. I understand that it is very hard fro working parents to place their children in the care of someone, and when that experience doesn't meet with expectations it can leave a bad taste in your mouth.
That said, why would you agree to a contract if you we're not willing to follow it? Providers have contracts for a reason. Contracts set out the expectations of both parent and provider. It fair to expect her to change the contract t suit you. You wouldn't be happy if she changed the contract to suit her.
Also, everyone works for money. If you work for a reason other than money,it's called volunteering. Do you often work an extra day free of charge as a favor to the company? My guess is no. Now if money were the only consideration no one would choose childcare as a career. I made alomost twice as much working in sales, but I like this job better. There are enough perks that the pay cut is worth it. I genuinely enjoy children and from what people have said I'm an excellent provider but that doesn't mean I don't work for the money.
As for naming names, how woudl you feel if this same provider was posting about this and put your name. There are two sides to every story and I doubt she sees this situation the same way you do.

[mamaof4]

Since when is a discussion about grammar offensive? I don't think the last few posts were attacking anyone nor were they mean, abusive, etc. It was simply a discussion...nobody was being singled out for using incorrect grammar. And yes, there are certainly people here whose first language is not English and I assumed that was where the confusion about "oxymoron" came in and it was why I did not comment...because as someone who has taught ESL learners for many years, I know how embarrassing it can be to have your errors pointed out. I sincerely hope that nobody feels their grammar, spelling, etc will be picked apart on this forum! I know I am horrible for typos...I can't type to save my life, so my letters get reversed, left out, etc.

ok i misunderstood