So there is/was a lot going on in their lives when they started (separation, move, selling house) so it just slipped her mind apparently. She did tell me that the other son is a vegetarian but I only have him for snacks so it hasn't been an issue. The little one eats so little and is picky beyond picky that I hadn't realized he hadn't eaten red meat because he also doesn't eat a lot of things.

I told the mom she would have to bring something in as I can't support a special diet but she said she isn't as particular as some. I asked about serving him whatever it is minus the red meat and she kind of wavered and said "or an alternative meal." I told her I can't do that but I could leave the meat out during the cooking for certain things e.g. pasta set some noodles aside and just add the tomato sauce without the meat.

I don't consider pork red meat either. They actually call pork now "the other white meat." Especially if you are having leaner cuts e.g loin.