Has anyone ever terminated a family because of tantrums? Help!

[playfelt]

You said the tantrums are when he won't listen to you. Think about what you are asking him to do and make sure that you aren't asking for something he sees as too difficult or something that means a quick shift in focus. Also toddlers don't get it when we say general things like clean up. When we have older kids in care they know what that means but I sure know what it is like on days I have jut the toddlers and say clean up and they just look at me and stare. They were just following the older kids and not understanding why. It means I have to go specifically with them, help them and lead the process meaning handing the child the bin and putting in a block or too and then asking him if he can find more blocks for your bucket. Takes forever but is less stressful and turns clean up into learning with sorting and interacting......And then I vow to myself to remove some of the toys for the next day so there are less blocks or cars or whatever to be picked up thinking it will mean less mess and then never do it.

As with anything pick your battles. If child tantrums over everything then maybe terminating is a good idea as that is too many problems to work with for a quick resolve. If it only involves some things like transitions (cleaning up is a transition from play to what comes next), or over meals, or going outside or some of the other complaints other providers have posted in the past then maybe you can find a way to make that aspect of daycare less of an issue.

[Daycare123]

Thanks Everyone!

[sunnydays]

Playfelt, as always, has great advice Also, I think it depends on how the parents are dealing with it. Are they working with you to try to curb the behaviour or do they just find it normal and acceptable. This was what happened with the dcb I terminated recently...I thought the parents were working on things until it became extremely clear that they didn't see anything wrong with him screaming at them every day, kicking and hitting them etc (he was 2.5). That is when I realized I was never going to get anywhere. If the parents are really working on it, he might get out of the phase fairly quickly and you will be okay.

[momofnerds]

the only way to fix it is to make him your shadow and you need to direct him to good behavior. It works trust me, its not going to work right away but once they discover that you are on them like glue they'll get it.

but I did have a child I did term. i stuck it out for almost a year. Every day saying that its going to be a good day, this child was the only one, who colored every where, bit the other kids, pullied thier hair, stole their toys and the last straw was that she was jumping on the other kids and trying to choke them. I discussed with the parents several times and got no one. When she left it was like a hundred pound boulder lifted from my home. The kids started to relax and play so well. Not one of the kids ever asked where the child was, I should have did it sooner.