OMG>>>>NEVER SAW ALL THIS COMING maybe another lessoned learned

[mommylove]

So i am so upset I have had this lil girl for 1 year and everything seems to have come to an abrupt end I was closed yesterday due to sickness when I am closed dcm take dcg to a friends house the last time she did this she made a strange comment "My friend would love to do daycare, all she would need is one lil one" then went on to tell me how her lil girl and her friends lil girl get along so well.
Anyways this time at pick up she suddenly has a list of concerns I have never heard about before today here are some of them:
1. the amount of kids I will have in the summer (had the same amount last summer)
2. Pool in the backyard (I have always had a pool)
3.The bigger kids running over or bumping her child over (really)
4. That in case of an emergency I wouldnt be able to take her child to the hospital cause all the kids don't fit in my van (huh)
5.The park across the street has a busy road right by it (ya so do alot of parks)
6. that when the other kids start I wont read and do crafts with her kid anymore ( why wouldn't I)

None of these make any sense as she has been in my care for a year with no incidents and all these things were always apart of my care?

We have known each other for 2 years and are friend this is why I think all is going wrong I think her other friend has offered to watch her child at a cheaper cost (shes always concerned about money) My son adores her daughter and vice versa its really upsetting, she says she's not leaving that she just has concerns what would you do if a parent came to you with all of this suddenly?????

[playfelt]

Assume that the other lady is putting the ideas into her head in an effort to push her to change caregivers and that the lady is just as confused right now as you are. Options include doing nothing and see if it all just passes or at least don't be the one to bring it up again. Option two is to come right out and say who put the ideas in her head and see if you can get her to talk. Be fully prepared to put ads out there for a possible opening and see what comes up and then call her bluff as in if you are so concerned then do you need to leave or are you prepared to get over these hangups - worded better of course. Do not make deals with her to keep the child ie lowering fees or you will constantly being expected to compromise.

For sure there is something going on that would suddenly make these concerns surface now.

[Momof4]

Oh mommylove, I've just been through a similar experience with a new family who were here 3 weeks then gave me weird excuses and left. I'm shocked and amazed that people would be so rude and selfish and your situation is even worse because you have known the people for 2 years. I'm really sorry you have to go through this. I hope we both get new families who deserve us!

[mommylove]

She pretty much said that I can only have 5 kids including my own 2 are my own and 1 is 6 and will have no one to play with for the entire summer then she said that my daughter is not her concern Im tired today no sleep lots of tears just sad and now questioning myself and everything she also said having new dcb cry all day effects her daughters mood, I explain thats part of transitioning and it get better. She pritty much complained about everything and I have never done anything wrong it just really sad and I am heartbroken.

[Crayola kiddies]

Well what are the laws where you live? I'm in Ontario and I am able to have 5 plus my own. So as long as I'm with in those parameters it's all good.

[mommylove]

Im in ontario too she asking a bit to much I think.......If a child cut themselves where they needed stitches what would you do?

[apples and bananas]

I would tell her that her concerns are valid and I'm happy to address all of them. She can either find time to meet with me about them so we can discuss and put her mind at ease, or she can email me and I can respond that way. All of those concerns are not going to be solved in one pick up or drop off.

[Wonderwiper]

Oh sweetie....never let a parent drive you to tears or lose sleep! Even if her concerns seem sudden or invalid to you, they are her concerns so respond to them in an appropriate business-like manner. You can be sure that you have a business relationship first before a friendship. Even though you are upset for your daughter, she is right that it is not her problem and she will look out for her own interests first, as should you. Get your ads up now.

[mommylove]

We already did meet and spoke for over an hour and I addressed all her concerns.....My problem is all the things that she is concerned about are things that have always been going on for the entire year that her child has been coming here and are invalid they have no backing at all. As far as my daughter goes I was explaining to her that im allowed 5 kids plus my own which puts me at 7 and she's asking that I drop 2 kids and sacrifice a enjoyable summer so that I can keep her child she shouldn't be concerned about my daughter but its not in the best interest of hers that my daughter not have anyone to play with as that make my day more unmanageable. So I asked her to keep her here until the summer (cause her concerns are only about the summer) so I have time to fill her spot and she has time to find a daycare that suits all her needs and requirements (good luck) and we can try our best to remain friend and do this in a way that everyone involve wins including the kids, she has yet given me a response and I am hoping for the sake of our friendship she will also see that its thee best solution for everyone involved.

[PattyCake]

......she's asking that I drop 2 kids and sacrifice a enjoyable summer so that I can keep her child......

She wants you to drop 2 kids? Is she going to pay you triple then for the lost income?