I think another sad thing is that often the kids end up paying for the sins of the parents. While I try very hard not to get angry more or not give as many hugs or pats or smiles to some of the kids it is hard when I am having difficulties with the parents to not become annoyed with all the little things the child does. That is the way the world works though in the sense that we go the extra mile for those that go the extra mile for us and have to try hard to meet the other type of parent at least in the middle.