OK so this little one is only 3 right????? I mean seriously???? Some children wet the bed until they are 9. And that is totally normal behaviour. Sometimes their physical bodies don't grow as fast as their minds. So that she knows and understands but can't control it......especially in her sleep. I wouldn't even dream of speaking to a doctor about it because it is so normal and very common to be still wetting the bed at 3. I mean some kids aren't even potty trained during the day at 3. I would do some research on bed wetting and be a gentle voice for this poor child, someone needs to fight for her. It sounds as if you care enough about her to be her voice. Poor child :-(