Well I decided to buy some cheap pull ups for my own sanity... we will try the '' no pressure'' aspect. I know her schedule at home is very wierd right now.. they are 2 families of 5 people living under the same roof... the she is the youngest! I'm sending her every 2 hours to go potty now... hopefully that will help.
I'm also going to ask about UTI.. she should get checked out!

her mom thinks that if she is around children her own age, it will be easier for her to stop wetting...