I completely agree.... I haven't had any moms ask to join their little one, other than the initial interview visits. If that was asked of me, I would decline. From day one, small people need to know that when they come here; Mom/Dad kisses them goodbye at the door, we play and have fun, and then sometime later, Mom/Dad will come to the door again to take them home. Having Mommy stay a couple times but then not stay anymore is confusing and not helpful for anyone. I will recommend that we start by implementing a couple hours at a time, and then increase it as needed. I explain to parents that it is TOTALLY normal to have tears at the door, and that if I feel that their child is having difficulty adjusting, they will be the first to know.
PS> I also agree with all that you have said about parenting these days. Sad, but true.....