Parents coming in at drop-off

[playfelt]

Looking back though, I wish she would have told me if it bothered her... I was new to this and needed to be told what to do !

The problem is if the caregiver had told you there is a very good chance you would have left but also taken your son with you. Part of our job unfortunately is dealing with insecurities on both parent and child. And truely parents do not understand how a home daycare works - or in the case above doesn't work as long as the parent is in the way. I am lucky in that I have a small area at the front door where the cubbies are, etc. and a gate to enter the rest of my house as a way of keeping the little ones from the front door, wet mat, shoes, etc. So I stand there in such as way no one enters the house. That isn't saying no parent ever enters but only certain ones and usually at pick up if the child has been doing something like building with blocks and wants to show mom but we have an upstairs playroom. Moms never come in at drop off. Everyone runs to the area when someone arrives and the child is usually glad to go off with their friends at least after the first few weeks.

If the little girl is only with you part time over the summer there is a good chance they are going out to playgroup, park, museum, etc. on the other days so mom has become her playmate. You may need to use that to help them both see that on daycare days she plays with friends and mom drops and runs to do her own thing and they will be together to play after daycare - I always say after naptime as it has meaning. By then they are into the day and it is less than an hour till mom would be coming anyways.

[Sunflower]

[QUOTE=playfelt;3841]The problem is if the caregiver had told you there is a very good chance you would have left but also taken your son with you. Part of our job unfortunately is dealing with insecurities on both parent and child. And truely parents do not understand how a home daycare works

not necessarily... I believe that good communication is very important, and that anything can be said as long as it is done with respect.
Had she just said, no parents allowed I would have thought she had something to hide BUT had she said what all the other ladies said..security reasons etc I would have reacted ok I think.
I am a reasonable person. I have had to do this myself and it is all in how you say things when it comes to parents !