her presence will definately affect her sons behaviour and honestly i think the request is silly. the child has settled in what issues does she have? We never know what to expect from our day and sometimes the things we deal with can be trying. I wouldnt want to chance that mom was watching on a day that turned out to be less than perfect. I never would have allowed her to come and breast feed to be honest nor do i allow pick up and drop off again for appointments. I dont allow parents to come during the work day. I get that its a huge deal to leave your kids with someone which is why i always encourage them to do their homework, see lots of other daycares etc because if they make their decision, they have to trust me. sounds like she doesnt have any valid reason for wanting to watch her son. I wouldnt do it.