I have exactly the same problem with a 15mo girl. I've had her since her mother went back to work and for most of the past 3 months she's been that way. I have often thought of terminating her, but feel it's a bit tricky because we're friends. I have asked if they picke her up/hold her a lot when at home and have been told no. But think something must be going on, she even cries when I tell her to go play. She only seems happy when eating or being held. Her crying has definately made my fuse shorter with not just her but the other kids in my care on those days. Thankfully she's not a full timer.