Hey dayhomies!
I have not been around much, sadly. Too much to do, too little time. Hope you are all well.

I am pleading for your advice here.... I have a 3 y/o dcg and my own 5 y/o daughter. For the most part, they get along great. But, dcg has a difficult time self-entertaining. She pretty much follows me around for the morning while my daughter is at school, even to the bathroom (that is getting better, as I told her it was not necessary or appropriate) and while I am doing bum changes for the smallest ones. If I am tidying up from snack, etc she often just stands there and watches me. I tell her time and again, "Go play with toys". The playroom is just through a doorway, it's not "away" from me, really. I feel like she has a very hard time if there is not someone playing WITH her. And then of course, the smaller ones follow her and do the same and I can't turn around without stepping on someone!!!
Anyway, that in itself is not the biggest issue. The challenge is that it drives my daughter CRAZY when she just stands there, staring. They will play, and play nicely. If my daughter stops, to ask me something, or do something different; she just follows and stares, playing with her hair (which drives me nuts, as "fidgets" are one of my pet peeves, haha).
I have been coaching my daughter that:
a) she cannot up and leave a game or whatever that they are in the middle of, as that is not very fair. She has been much better with that.
b) it is only because the younger girl likes to play with her so much, and wants to do the same things she is doing. I don't know how far flattery goes with a 5 y/o? LoL

If my daughter is upset about something, maybe crying etc, it really makes her blow a fuse. She has turned and yelled "STOP STARING AT ME!!!" a number of times.

Is this her issue? Or daycare girl's? Or both?
I have been telling my daughter that she can turn away, or ask her nicely to go do something different. I have also been telling dcg that she needs to go find something to do. But inevitably, 15 seconds later she is standing there, across the room, with a toy in hand, just watching us/ my daughter.

Whatcha think???