I posted here just over a month ago about a dcm who sent her dd to me with a fever and vomiting doing the old 'dose and dump' but I had made the decision to keep her on anyways.. she apologized and said she would never let it happen again. Honestly I was okay with it because I knew the situation would be over soon *June* but really the relationship for me was badly hurt over it and the trust was completely gone on my side. But being the doormat I tend to be, I let her stay on.
On Monday after-school, the child arrives looking tired. She lays down while playing and falls asleep. My daughter woke her up while playing and the dcg starts crying and which time I intervene and she starts telling me about how she felt sick.. and was vomiting the day before. Then she proceeds to tell me that her father had given her Advil in the morning before school because she had a fever.. I took her temp and she had a fever. Immediately I tried contacting her parents (there was an unrelated text 10 mins prior) but could not reach anybody for at least 1/2 hour. Finally the father called me back to say that his mom was picking her up, so I woke up the girl and took her outside with me to wait (the other children had gone home already) and the poor girl fell asleep outside sitting on the step! It took almost a full hour to have her picked up.
I calmed down (I was so angry that I was shaking, which never happens to me) and had a long talk with my husband about it. We agreed that it was difficult due to our daughter's relationship and the proximity of our home to hers, but that this was the last straw. This mom had broken our contract several times, and I often have to chase down payments but it's the violation of sick policy that really gets me, and I had taken so much time and energy the last time telling her exactly why I couldn't allow it to happen again, and how awkward it was for me etc.

My rant now is that I am so sad and hurt, but mostly it's that I feel bad for the little girl involved.. She seems to get sick often. I'm also very upset that this woman put me in the situation - after letting her clearly no how I felt about it last time. I have 5 other families plus my own to worry about, and that kind of virus can be devastating to a daycare.. to willingly expose my home, my children, the daycare children, their families and myself.. AGAIN is the last straw.

I sent her an e-mail (she prefers that method and text, and I prefer having the hard copy over verbal) this morning.. I told her that I felt I couldn't meet her families needs any longer and that I thought it was best that she find somebody who can be more accommodating sort of putting it back on myself to take the sting out of it it a bit... I'm waiting for her reply (if any).

I just wish I had more backbone... because here I am feeling horrible for bailing on them.. which is ridiculous. Any tips for getting over that feeling?
Thanks!