Over my 17 years I have tried many different way to transition kids into my daycare and to be honest, the best way I have found is to start full time right away. I find the one hour here and there just doesnt work. Its best to get the kids started into the routine right away. Nothing works perfect for every child but in my experience jumping right in works best. As for getting something for your provider, maybe just bring a coffee or tea and a muffin or croissant in the morning for her to "help" her get through the rough patches. My most valued gifts from clients are the cards that are given that express their apreciation for my hard work.