Thank you all so much for reading and posting encouragement.
It's do discouraging when you get upset over something that is not in your hands... and it's so refreshing and uplifting to have the opinion of those who are 'in the know' who can understand the complexity of needing to what is best for your own family, the other daycare families and your business.. but also wanting to be accommodating and help others too.. and how you get attached to children and feel bad for their parent's choices etc. It's not an easy dynamic - but I feel if parents are not on the same team as me, we can't do what is best for all involved. The range of emotions is so huge - sadness, disappointment, anger, guilt.. looking forward to it moving into the relief stage!

Thank you SO much for just being there... I should have let them go a long time ago but my personality is to help others and try to work things out.. but it's not going to just 'work out'.. I can see that now. At least I can look back and know I tried. I hope for the dc girl that they find somebody who can accommodate them.

I'm a big girl, but I do feel sorry for the kids involved.. my own daughter included as I do not know yet if they will choose to be mature and leave this to the adults, or if they will turn the little girl against mine. The way I stated it was that it was my fault for not being able to accommodate them and that I hope they can find somebody who can etc so I am really hoping it turns out okay... at least civil..

thanks again