No reply after termination notice?

[Crys]

I never told her that she couldn't come on Monday, I'm not so much worried about the child coming, as I am about either the awkwardness if she acts like nothing happened, or the confrontation of it if she doesn't acknowledge beforehand. I am willing to walk away from the amount owing, it's only 4 days (after school rate at that) and it's not worth the fight if it comes to that. I just want it to be over. I had this one family rack up their costs into the hundreds before getting paid. This situation is my fault because I had let them away with too much for too long... and the mom thinks I'm a friend because I do the extras like drive her daughter to Brownies etc.. *I do that for the girl, and because she is friends with my daughter, which makes this situation extra awkward.* I wish I had never agreed to take her on, and as the situation got worse and worse, I let it continue because I saw the end coming naturally without confrontation (the summer is approaching and I do not have the space for days for her, and the Fall is already prebooked with day kids so we had an understanding that end-June was it) BUT it has come to the point where I cannot allow her to remain.
I have 5 other families (inc. my own) to worry about and it's not fair to them if I allow her to put their health at risk (inc. my own!) deliberately and without care. For all of the other violations it has just been an inconvenience/disrespect thing, but this crosses the line for me, it's a dealbreaker to send me the girl with a virus and with using advil to mask the fever. Since the EXACT same thing happened just before Easter, I hashed it out with her then, told her exactly how I felt about it, how it was unacceptable and that next time I couldn't let it go.. she apologized and promised to never do it again... then bam.. Monday after school dkg comes to me, falls asleep, complains of not feeling well, take temp - moderate fever, tells me she was vomiting the day before and it was an hour before somebody (grandma) came to pick up, and absolutely nothing from her since. nothing. I waited to cool down on Monday evening then I e-mailed with just the facts, the details of how things went down and another reminder of my sick policy (again), with a note that we would get into the 'moving forward' aspect the next day.
On Tuesday I made the decision that no matter how awkward it will be for us in the future (because they live close by, they are friends with other families in my daycare and the girls are in school together go to brownies together etc..) I simply cannot allow her to remain, all trust is gone and I feel I can't deal with that family any longer. So on Tuesday I sent her another e-mail but I found a way to be 'nice' about it - I told them that I felt I could no longer meet their needs - because I am not able to take in children who are ill (and reminded her of the last instance and our conversation as well written back up) and that I think everybody included would be more comfortable with a change in care.. I do wonder now if I was too easy in my wording - although my last line was that I wished to make it as smooth and happy transition for the girl as possible... which to me is clear.. (and I had previously told her if it happened again I would have no choice)

In any event, I just want it to be over, and if that means she wants the 2 weeks I'm okay with it... but really she broke the contract so I'm thinking it's void anyways? I just want her to respond so I know what she is expecting, and if/when she plans to pay me, wants her daughter's things back etc.. This is my first termination.. I do plan to provide her with a written formal letter, but just wanted it to include the details of the 'breakup' such as end-date, amounts owing (if she doesn't pay up) etc.

Thanks for your insight

[Crys]

She *just* e-mailed me to say that she had been unsure of how to respond. She told me she is sorry that she upset the balance and she will figure out a new plan for care.
I told her that she can have the 2 weeks, and she is aware of what she owes, based on her reply I am hoping we can move forward in a way that is best for everybody, but mostly for her daughter, since she is friends with my little girl, it makes it hard if she just gets cut-off... I truly want what is best for her but I simply can't be her caregiver any longer.

This is horrible, I love love love my job, but I hate the business end of it!