sassygirl thats exactly what I did with dcb today I felt bad letting him cry but I know I have to do it or he will continue doing this everyday.....I just wanted to make sure I wasnt leaving him to cry to long....but he cried for 35 minutes and now has been sleeping since 150 I will just stick to it and hopefully it gets better. As for dcg I also agree and will be putting her down daily for a 45 minutes in the am I think thats the solution.......THANK EVERYONE FOR AGAIN SOME GREAT ADVICE AND REASSURANCE