I really identify with a lot of what is here. I am also super organized, efficient and a bit of a perfectionist. I am creative, energetic and although I can be anal about my own house (this I have even relaxed on once I got married, had kids), I am pretty laid back about the daycare space and encourage the kids to be kids and get dirty/have fun. I have fun with them but I am firm about the rules. My dckids understand that I care for them and feel secure and trust me. I have one family in particular where the children are in constant flux and the adults in their lives give them too much decision making power/choice. This child is thriving with me because he knows my expectations and he sees an adult in charge so he feels safe.