I feel your pain! I have a new dcg who is into her 7th week with me now and I have extended her trial period twice because the first week she was great then after that she cried all day for weeks...last week was supposed to be her last week, but she suddenly seemed almost totally fine...so I extended one more week (this week) just to be sure as I am also hesitant to fully believe that she is now fine. I hope she is...but today was terrible again She slept terribly last night and was tired and crying on and off all day again today. I'm crossing my fingers that she improves tomorrow because I really thought she was going to be okay last week! So....to make a long story longer, I think probation seems like a not bad idea if he continues to do well for the next 2 weeks...just tell his mom you just want to be sure that he is really settled. This is in effect, exactly what I am doing with my current family. I have never had a little one take so long to settle in...not sure if it points to other issues