I was actually thinking about this yesterday and am glad to see this thread here today! I am not overly affectionate with my DC kids...if one of them comes to me for a hug then of course I give it, and when they are hurt or scared I comfort them right away, but that's about it. I tend to leave it up to the kid how close they like to get and find that it varies a lot. But there certainly are parents out there who think we should be hugging and kissing these kids all the time and that just doesn't come naturally to me.