Yeah I do feel love my DCK's not like my own of course but I am not hugging and kissing them all the time either. I'm just not like that. I will tend to them when they need, I will hug them and I will kiss them or the boo boo. During story time one will sit on my lap or whatever. However, I do not answer every little cry either ... From what I read we are all very different but not better or worse but parents will choose who they think fits best. However pulling out because they felt you did not ''love'' the child seems a bit ridiculous to me.