Very upset parent...

[playfelt]

The fact you only have a month left I would probably stick to my guns and say child will need to do quiet activities but do them on her mat in the sense that I have things I need to do that means I am not always able to have her follow me around the house and I need to know where she is at all times. Then if she falls asleep so what - generally when moms don't know the kid goes to bed normally.

I don't get a break because my own child doesn't nap - hasn't for over 15 years - yes she is 20 but special needs. I only let older kids not nap that can do the sit in one place and not bug me for the hour. They lay on their mat for the first hour and either fall asleep or get up and do whatever was in their quiet bin for that day while I do my own things - ie I spend first hour on computer with my lunch and then spend second hour doing stuff.

[Big Hearts]

I would put on a movie for her to watch. Turn off the lights the put on finding nemo or something. But ya you only have a month so stick to your guns. A kids movie is 90mins or so give you time to eat check email ect.

[zoomama]

Thank you ladies. Yes I could just let her watch a movie during quiet time. My ONLY problem with this is then the dcm has marched in, told me what to do and I do it. Had she come in and spoken respectfully to me I wouldn't have any problem with this AT ALL but yhe way she spoke and bossed me made me so mad I don't want to comply with her DEMANDS!

[playfelt]

Thank you ladies. Yes I could just let her watch a movie during quiet time. My ONLY problem with this is then the dcm has marched in, told me what to do and I do it. Had she come in and spoken respectfully to me I wouldn't have any problem with this AT ALL but yhe way she spoke and bossed me made me so mad I don't want to comply with her DEMANDS!

In an earlier post you mentioned taking on a couple of younger children. What was the nap policy prior to that as in has this child always napped, just played quietly or what did she do? It sounds like mom is blaming nap on the fact you have babies napping. Just because babies started shouldn't effect what the older child is doing during quiet time.

[zoomama]

In an earlier post you mentioned taking on a couple of younger children. What was the nap policy prior to that as in has this child always napped, just played quietly or what did she do? It sounds like mom is blaming nap on the fact you have babies napping. Just because babies started shouldn't effect what the older child is doing during quiet time.

I had fewer children so not on such desperate need of a complete break so I would let her watch tv or colour/look at books on the couch (which she didn't actually do...she'd just watch me with a "is it time yet" look which drove me nuts!!!
I have spoiled my families and now that i'm finally putting my foot down they are kicking up a fuss, much like children do when rules are put in place. Fortunately there are fresh families starting and if all old ones leave it's fine. I just don't want a bad rep in a very small community.

[ladyjbug]

I always turn the nap thing back around on the parents. "Disgruntled Daycare Mom, Obviously I cannot "force" any child to sleep, because if you use the same logic, you would have been able to "force" the same kid to go to bed at a decent hour. Which apparently you could not do. I do give the option to sleep at quiet time, but older children in my care are also given the choice to read books while resting on their mat. They must remain quiet to not disrupt the children who need to sleep, but the choice to nap is theirs. That's unfortunate that you are unhappy with the care. I have my policies in place in order to be fair to all the families in care. If you are no longer willing to honor the contract you signed, then you need to give X amounts of weeks paid notice as per our contract. Please let me know your decision by such and such a date so I can notify my waitlist. They will be DELIGHTED!"