Need some help please! *LONG post*

[Momof4]

Very well said everyone and I agree that children must learn consequences along with praise from the time they are babies. Mamaathome, have you considered that if you give up and try to place your unruly child in a daycare that they will be terminating you constantly? You aren't doing your child any favours by not having firm rules for her. She will always know that you love her. I have to ask you to picture your headstrong daughter as a teenager behaving as she does now. We MUST enforce rules and teach our children to get along with others for their own good. By disciplining you are not being mean, you are being a good parent.

[JennJubie]

My son has ADHD, ODD, and Asperger's. I know there are valid, behavioural reasons why he acts out, loses his temper... etc. That being said, he still does NOT get away with inappropriate behaviour. He is still disciplined in some way, there are consequences for poor behaviour. Just because I know my son has these issues does not give me an excuse to let him get away with his behaviour without consequences of some kind, it only allows me to understand why the behaviour is happening.

I have always said that the world will not adapt to my son, he must adapt to the world. This is true for ANY child.

[daycarewhisperer]

Op you need to hear some truth so I'm going to join the majority here and tell you that you are in for a long long ride and it's going to be very bumpy. You are adultizing your little kids emotions and stroking her unstable mindset. You are making a big emotional mama love deal over terrible disrespectful behavior and suggesting that she's so special special that she defies a normal human response by not being receptive to something she doesn't like or want do thus she's immune to needing something she just doesn't want. She's THAT unique. She's the ONE who must have a big song and dance dog and pony show because the hard NO with an immediate consequence is just not to her liking. Be damned whoever comes in between you servicing her special even if that someone is another child.

Knock it off and get real. If you have done ten years with other people's kids you should know better.

You can try to get her to be decent with the other kids and mind your wishes with lots of scenic road paths but in the end you will have what you have now: a badly behaving kid who can't take no and mind the adults.

Grow some and take her on. I promise you will be the ONLY person on the planet who will cry over her dislike of consequences. Once she steps foot into the real world she will not get that response. She will get the response the other kids are giving her now. They are giving you the real truth. You don't need us.