Need some help please! *LONG post*

[sunnydays]

The thing that caught my attention most about your post was that you said that she just wants her mama and it breaks your heart that you have to do other things and not what she wants basically. I think you need to remember that you ARE being her mama by teaching her that the world does not revolve around her and that she cannot have her way all the time. I know it is hard, but if you feel bad about it then she will pick up on that and she will give you an even harder time. I think, from reading your post, that the problem is in your emotions perhaps more than hers. I say this in the gentlest way and with no judegment as we are all parents trying to do best for these little people we love so much. YOU are feeling guilty and feeling that it is your fault whenever she is upset. This is really not necessary! You are doing a great thing for yuor daughter by staying home with her, but you are also doing a great thing by having other kids in her space so she learns the vital social skills needed to survive in this world. She will have to learn to deal with people in her space, with differences in personality etc...better to learn it from the beginning. I think, in my opinion, you just need to stop feeling bad about this and teach her how to deal with her emotions. You may need to get tougher and use some consequences for bad behaviour such as hitting, screaming at the other kids etc. You are doing her no favours by not teaching her social skills. You can do it!