Need some help please! *LONG post*

[Judy Trickett]

so what your saying is that when your dd starts to hit and scream she doesn't have consequences. Lady you are in for a rude awakening (I'm a seasoned mom and provider) so your letting your dd get away with it, but what about the other children, when they start to act out what are you going to do.
basically what you want to do is reason with a 2 yr old. It aint going to work. Also when my kids where younger they had the same rules as the dck's. Maybe thats what you need to do. Also, the parents are going to start to realize what is going on in the house, so your going to have to decide if you want to parent your child or let your child do as she pleases.

I also think that as a parent I would NOT want my child in the daycare of a provider who allows her own children to do whatever they please with no consequences. Eventually her OWN child will become the daycare liability.

Mamaathome....what I want you to consider is that you are setting up your child for unrealistic expectations in the world. The world has consequences. I know she's "only" two but if she is old enough and smart enough to figure out that she can do what she wants with no consequences then she is old enough to understand the consequence. You are setting your child up for failure. What's gonna happen when she goes off to school and hits a kid?

I know you likely think we are picking on you. I assure you, we're not. But you see, we see ALLLLL kinds of kids and, sadly, as the years go by there are more and more kids coming into our daycares who have home lives of NO consequences. These kids are the worst kind because they have no real grasp on the realities of not being the centre of the Universe and that other people matter too. These are the kids that daycare providers complain about on daycare forums. These are the kids that no one likes - because it is HARD to like someone who is narcississtic and spoiled and think they are the only one who matters. Trust me, you don't want your child to be the one who isn't liked.

You WILL be in for a rude awakening if you don't start putting your foot down. Your child is worth it.

[KellyP]

I also think that as a parent I would NOT want my child in the daycare of a provider who allows her own children to do whatever they please with no consequences. Eventually her OWN child will become the daycare liability.

The whole time I am reading the replies in this post, I am thinking, if I were one of the parents of the kids in this child care and I stumbled across this and read this, I'd be running over there and pulling my kid out of that situation so fast!

I would never want my child to witness that kind of manipulation of an adult ever.

OP, you are definitely in for a rude awakening. Maybe it's a good thing you are a child care provider because if I had a parent in my care who refused to allow their child to suffer the consequences of her own actions and continually made excuses for it, I would term them immediately and without feeling badly about it.

Your DD is behaving as a bully and you are letting her. If time outs don't work, then it is YOUR job to figure out what will work. She KNOWS you feel bad/guilty and she is playing you like a fiddle. Too bad you aren't as quick to see this as she is.