Need some help please! *LONG post*

[KellyP]

I also think that as a parent I would NOT want my child in the daycare of a provider who allows her own children to do whatever they please with no consequences. Eventually her OWN child will become the daycare liability.

The whole time I am reading the replies in this post, I am thinking, if I were one of the parents of the kids in this child care and I stumbled across this and read this, I'd be running over there and pulling my kid out of that situation so fast!

I would never want my child to witness that kind of manipulation of an adult ever.

OP, you are definitely in for a rude awakening. Maybe it's a good thing you are a child care provider because if I had a parent in my care who refused to allow their child to suffer the consequences of her own actions and continually made excuses for it, I would term them immediately and without feeling badly about it.

Your DD is behaving as a bully and you are letting her. If time outs don't work, then it is YOUR job to figure out what will work. She KNOWS you feel bad/guilty and she is playing you like a fiddle. Too bad you aren't as quick to see this as she is.