Quote Originally Posted by Judy Trickett View Post
My guess is your daughter is the way you described because you are not willing to PARENT her in a manner that is appropriate to preventing and working on the exact type of behaviour you describe. If you want to REALLY know why your daughter is acting that way then you need to look at YOURSELF and what you are or are not doing to support that behaviour.

Obviously what you are doing isn't turning out the type of child you want.
Those words from Judy are very hard to take as a parent, but very true! When my son was hitting and biting at 18 months old someone told me the same...and after feeling angry and attacked I started to really think about it... Yes, if we look in detail our kids behavior has a lot to do with OURS... I had to change my approach... Currently my boy is a well behaved boy (with some minor infractions, of course). I already had 5 years of experience as a provider when that started to happen and usually my DCK are well behaved (and I rarely used time outs with them), the problem here is that when we are dealing with our own kids we run through completely different emotions. I think this is what other ladies are talking about, trying to be less partial could help in your situation... I'm personally not against cuddles and hugs or showing affection, but still we need to teach them how to behave properly and some disciplinary actions can sometimes be useful such as time out, removal of privileges, etc. If this is too harsh for you, you could start with a gentler approach by acknowledging her feelings and explain what to do next time, to give her a chance. If that is not working then you may have to go with the consequences.