I totally agree with what everyone said and I agree kids need clear limits. I think Sunnydays is right though and I have not been consistently consequencing them for breaking the rules. I have had them go on time out for pulling up flowers or have taken a sand toy when they weren't using it for it's intended purpose but I think I need to do this more consistently. I was just worried I was doing this too much. Good to know it just comes with the territory.