Seriously. Good Lord. I'm pretty sure the OP has enough sense (because she seems quite a sensible, smart person to me given her past posts) to find out from her friend how many kids the provider has of her OWN. And I am also sure that knowing how many kids of their own a provider has would be something this girlfriend would know.
I think everyone else here understood that in my post I was referring to kids in CARE. And sorry, but if you are over the limit then you are operating ILLEGALLY and also sorry, but if a parent knows this then THEY are just as much at fault as the daycare provider.
Anyone who knows me also knows I am VERY pro-provider. So to make the assumption that I would recommend anyone just report their collegues without justification is absurd.
I AM pro-provider - but for those providers who are operating LEGALLY and who are treating the kids right.