What is your daycare policy on potty training and wearing underwear? I would be clarifying step-by-step to this dcm. In my home, I decide when they are ready to wear underwear, not the parents. I need to see them staying dry, vocalizing they need to go, and being independent enough to actually go. They can wear underwear at home all weekend ( I actually encourage this for practise) but getting to that stage in group care takes a little more time.