Just For The Record......

[jodaycare]

I am afraid that it is too late to remove the name, the damage has been done. It should never have been shown in the first place.

[jammiesandtea]

While I am with you on the not jumping to conclusions one way or another, I do have to say it is different when providers complain about parents because I have NEVER seen any of them use a parent or a child's name on the forum...and I am sure it would have been removed if they had.

Exactly this. But if some people would like it to remain open season here on daycarebear to slander providers by naming their business but not their first and last names (as that being the only no-no)... then how about if providers start posting "reviews" of parents who skip out without notice, or pay late, or pick up their children late, or any number of the other things some parents pull, and we will stick to the "no first and last names", but we will provide every other identifying detail that we possibly can, including city, hours needed, mom and dad's type of employment, child age, type of car they drive... whatever it takes to give providers in that city a heads up to watch for that family without "first/last naming" them. Fair?

[mamaof4]

Posts (and post titles) are not approved by a mod when they are posted. Meaning - even if we had had a policy regarding naming names and someone posted a thread violation of the policy it would be viewable until a mod was able to remove it.

I cannot go in an edit what an individual says- I can edit titles and delete the post as a whole, editing the body of a post is something that the original poster can to.

All posts containing the dayhome's name have been removed with the exception of her response and the her post that linked to her response in the original thread.

[mamaof4]

Exactly this. But if some people would like it to remain open season here on daycarebear to slander providers by naming their business but not their first and last names (as that being the only no-no)... then how about if providers start posting "reviews" of parents who skip out without notice, or pay late, or pick up their children late, or any number of the other things some parents pull, and we will stick to the "no first and last names", but we will provide every other identifying detail that we possibly can, including city, hours needed, mom and dad's type of employment, child age, type of car they drive... whatever it takes to give providers in that city a heads up to watch for that family without "first/last naming" them. Fair?

As previously stated- the business name was named not the owner operator and we did not have a policy on naming names.

You guys were already taking the high road and being responsible- we had no need for such policy, now clearly things have changed and one will be made and posted

[Judy Trickett]

Here is the issue- "Must be false"

How do we know if the problems were false or not?
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Well, that's a BIG gamble to take assuming it to be true, isn't it? If you assume it to be true and leave it there and the providers sues daycarebear WILL be named in the suit. Big, big, STUPID gamble. Besides, I stand by the point that if this were a provider naming a PARENT that thread would have been deleted from the get go. There would be no mention of "maybe the provider is telling the truth". Nope, it would have been deleted.

[playfelt]

I think it all comes down to intention. The parent did not post a question asking how often kids should be changed to avoid diaper rash, how common was getting diaper rash in care (besides very common when they start at 12 months and are heavy into teething), how often did kids just starting care get sick,.....etc.

These questions we could have answered for the parent and then they could have made up their own mind if the care situation they had was a good one or a bad one. Just as providers we ask a question if what a child in our care is doing is ok/normal or whatever before we decide to tolerate the behaviour, work on changing it or terminating the child.

The sole purpose of the post was to defame the daycare and that is where the problem is in my opinion. The forum is about sharing when something good is happening and asking for help when we encounter difficulty. It is a support group not a soap box.

[Sandbox Sally]

I am extremely sensitive to these kinds of posts since a disgruntled daycare mother posted defamatory comments about my home daycare on a Facebook group that has 2000+ members. I am very pleased to see that the thread in question has been shut down.

I don't think people realize the potential damage they can do to a person's life for the sake of revenge. In my case, the mom was angry about a money dispute. She questioned my quality of care. I know that many, many mothers saw what she wrote, and I am sure that even if I had defended and refuted everything, some of the mothers either wouldn't believe me, or they would still have negative connotations when they heard my name. That doesn't go away with an apology or a rebuttal. It's a permanent stigma.

I am still mulling over whether I should sue in my situation. The woman who made the remarks about me outright lied, and I have emails and text messages to prove that she lied.

[mimi]

You have the proof Sandbox Sally? Then I would go for it.

[Sandbox Sally]

I have proof, yep.

She lied about ages of kids in my care. That's easily proven.

She said that I made inappropriate comments about her husband. I have every email and text message we ever sent. All I said about her husband was that I didn't want him coming over to confront me about the money dispute when I was home alone with the children.

She said that I didn't give her notice about her son's behaviour issues. I have text messages and emails that say otherwise.

She said that I stopped posting menus. I changed the format, but I still posted the menus, and I can prove it.

It goes on and on. I don't know what's stopping me from suing her. I guess at the end of the day, I kind of feel sorry for her because she's got a lot working against her.

She said that I didn't take the children outside (I have an email where she states how grateful and pleased she is about how much I take her son outside, dated four weeks before she sent out the defamatory document)