Full out tantrum: Consequence?

[Momof4]

I don't know about anybody else, but when I type something or say something it's my opinion and it's honest. Nobody else ever has to agree with me, but I hope I'm helping someone along the way with an anecdote from my many (many) years of experience on this earth. I abhor phoniness, you won't get that from me!

I hope I'm never attacked on this forum and have to defend myself because I've definitely quit another forum recently due to phoniness and judgemental people. Hate that! Aren't we here to support each other? Shouldn't we all be able to express our opinions without being judged or ridiculed or made to feel small?

I have to agree with Judy on this one. I had a violent 2 year old in care years ago and I terminated her because the parents wouldn't help me get her under control. None of us should keep a child like that in care because we are supposed to be protecting all the other children and we deserve to have good children in care so that we are happy.

Dream, are the parents talking openly with you about the problem? Do you see any progress possible? Good luck!

[Judy Trickett]

Well, everyone can think what they want. I really DO mean it.....I have NEVER had a kid, who started with me at the age of 12 months, go into a full blown tantrum here at 2 years old. It just wouldn't happen. It's unacceptable behaviour and they learn this early in my daycare. I don't tantrum on them. I don't hit them. I don't scream at them so they don't do it to me or their friends either. They learn this early on.

I had a 13 month old start with me a few years back. He was horrible. He hit me on day three. That was his last day here. I will NOT put up with that sort of behaviour.

[dodge__driver11]

I had a boy kick and bite me in lic. care, and it was the directors son, and she refused to do anything about it so I quit...... I don't deserve to get hit, kicked, or bitten ever! No one does.

[Dreamalittledream]

Thanks everyone for taking the time to respond. This little girl's mom actually first mentioned it to me that she was seeing the behavior at home (her 2 older sisters developed the same attitude, but at not quite early an age). Mom was wondering if I was seeing the behavior here as well. I was not, at the time. However, about 2 weeks ago a tantrum started in the car with Mom over what shoes she had wanted to wear. Mom could not calm her (there is nothing that will calm this child; you just have to put her somewhere safe and let her calm herself down). We were all playing outside at the time and I took the child in my arms so poor Mom could go to work. Once she kicked me, I then restrained her in a wagon that I had handy and let her scream it out. Lovely scene for the neighbors @ 7:30am
So, since then, usually once a day (almost always within the first hour of arrival) this child has a similar tantrum when she does not get what she wants (toy). That, of course, does not fly here. At first I would be very stern, sit her in the timeout chair. Every time I would look at her (say "are you calm now?"), she would start again. Now, I've created a pillow for her. As soon as I see her getting frustrated she now goes straight to her pillow and gets up when she's calm. I'm happy with this resolution as it has taught her to deal with her own emotions and she is getting no reinforcement from me (audience for her tantrum).