I have a 2 yr old that up until a month ago has been a good napper. He was my first, so in the begining, I use to bring him down with me after he woke up (after 45 min), and he would nap in my arms for another hour. Big mistake, I know.

When I got my second kid, I was able to transition him so that he napped the entire time in his PnP. Until a month ago, that was working out great, at least 2 hours. Then he started dreading nap time, he would start crying as soon as lunch was over. Unless I was in the room with him while he fell asleep, he'd cry himself to sleep. Then he started to wake up after less than an hour. It's been like that for a few weeks. Sometimes I can get him back to sleep, and sometimes I just go in and check on him every so often until nap time is over. He has some toys and books to keep him occupied. He usually cries for a while, if not the entire remainder of quiet time.

I;ve been honest with him mom, telling her that he's been having trouble sleeping, but I guess I haven't communicated properly because she was under the impression that I took him out of his playpen when he woke up after 45 minutes. When she heard that quiet time was 2 hours no matter what, I could tell that she was upset. Tell me a two hour quiet/nap time is a realistic expectation? Would you take him out of his crib when he woke up? I feel like I need to clear the air with the mom, but I want to make sure I'm not expecting too much from her son.