I had a similar dilemma a while back and posted on here as well. The ladies gave me excellent advice. In the end I did what most said... put it in front of dck and ignored if they ate it or not. I quit offering anything else and they had to wait until the next meal/snack. I also keep a log book of what the children eat and bowel movements. All I would write is what was served and a note if they refused to eat it. I never mentioned that I wasn't providing an alternative and they never questioned it. It only took a couple of weeks and now that dck eats tons of foods that used to be refused. The advice worked wonders! I just needed to build up the confidence to do it and know the child was not in fact starving.