Need Advice on How to Downsize

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Something I am finding a lot is providers having second babies wondering how to manage - you care now for several kids, adding another one that sleeps most of the time is really not a big deal. I know you want the privileges you had with the first of easier days, resting when baby napped etc but that just doesn't happen.

Question: who is going to look after your firstborn while you are recovering from having the new baby?

The reality is it is generally you that will be staying up and learning to function on only a few hours sleep to feed and entertain your older child. Trust me when I say the daycare kids coming are a godsend because they keep your older child entertained, give some focus to the day to help you stay awake and that paycheck goes a long way to ordering in supper.

Barring a medical reason for needing help most manage alone when the second, third child comes along. What you need to do is speak with your parents and let them know your plan is to cope and manage daycare so their lives are not disrupted but let them know beyond basic care of diapers and meals that programming will be hit and miss and mostly miss for the first couple months till you all have a routine.

If you really think you must downsize then keeping the kids that bring in the most amount of money makes sense so the full time and 3 day a week child for sure should stay. But as we have said above if you have to stay awake and make meals and provide entertainment/supervision for your child plus two more what is the difference with having the day here and there kids too?