Can you believe this?

[torontokids]

Basically the whole thing felt inappropriate to me. They should be able to get it together enough to just hand over their child. I was concerned about getting involved in that way. The drop off's and pick ups now are not an issue as he spends his day with me so it is not awkward for me/the child as just the other parent picks up.

It was much easier to say "no" as he was home sick for the day but even if he wasn't if would have been weird. I think they can do more for their kid if they put on their brave faces and do the exchange. If the parents can be human/normal in front of each other then maybe this child won't feel so many conflicting loyalties.

[mimi]

My exhusband and I argued once in front of our daughter then 3 at her pick up. The look on her face as she watched us argue made us both vow to never, ever do that again and to discuss things without her in attendance. We have never broken that vow though sometimes I had things on the tip of my tongue I wanted to say but held it in because I never wanted to see that look on my daughters face again.

[apples and bananas]

LOL. I actually know someone who had their provider drop off their children at their dads house on Christmas eve just to avoid seeing him.

It happens far too often and it's damaging! Can you imagine how those kids felt? Wondering why their daycare lady had to pick them up at one house and drop them off at another? Kids are smart.

[Sandbox Sally]

There are many reasons for split parents to avoid one another, ie abuse, emotional turmoil (that can affect the parent to the point of it briefly interfering with their parenting).

Of course, you have every right to refuse to be the drop off point, but I can think of many things that would be beneficial to the child by the parents not having any interaction. I don't think this move is childish, rather, probably a very grown up and responsible decision.

I'd do it in a heartbeat. I am pro-anything that makes life easier for a solo parent.