Thanks for your kind words mini, he has always been sort of about himself as he is an only child. With that said though he used to do his share of things and he looked forward to be doing nice things for me.

It seems he has been on this road for a little over 3 years, he left a job in IT to pursue a career as a Police Officer but he isn't getting hired. its a very competitive field. I used to be his biggest cheerleader and gave up my dream job as a Flight Attendant so I could stay home with our DD.

I decided to do daycare one day and opened my doors in a matter of 3 weeks and filled my spots in less than 2 months. I think he resents me due to being able to achieve my goals with ease. I have been successful in all my jobs and always achieved promotions and pay raises.

His lack of motivation has gone down hill by 90%, his mom passed away in December and he seemed unaffected, it scares me a bit as I'm waiting for it to hit him? I am now doing almost everything on my own as he sleeps when he gets home from work and wakes to demand his dinner! I'm burning out as I just can't do it all anymore. I want to leave him for a short while to shake him back to reality but can't as I have a business to run and need to pay bills.

I have sat him down and told him if his career goals aren't working out he will need to find a new job that pays better, he is currently at a factory making not so great money but is there due to the short comute and great hours, 6-2:30pm. This way he has more time to focus on volunteering etc... But the thing is he isn't volunteering etc... I don't want to turn into a nag but I'm at a loss of how to positively motivate him.

Playfelt how long have you been going through this? I feel so alone as none if our well off friends have an ounce of what I'm going through and I can't bring myself to even talk to them. It suck to be struggling in so many ways when everyone around you goes on 2-3 trips a year, drive nice cars, buy designer clothes etc... I just want to scream but can't!