With my ds here's what we do: (He has quiet time here too)

His bed time is between 8 and 8:30 every night.

At 7:30 we get him to brush his teeth, wash up (bath depending on the day)
He then gets a light snack, yogurt, crackers, a digestive cookie, or toast
We fill up his water bottle
He goes pee
We read him a story
turn on his night light and glow turtle, cover him up, turn off the lights and say goodnight

Within ten mins he is asleep, and wakes up at 7:15-7:30 each morning. and he is almost 5.