Tragedy at a home daycare in Vaughan, ON

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Everyone plays their part in society so if everyone had the attitude of "not my responsibility" then the problem would only get worse. In order to prevent these types of problems in society we ALL have to play a part. Just the bad attitude towards people on welfare and shunning of these people makes the situation worse. Plus, don't begin to think you know what it is like to walk in someone's shoes just because you( not meaning anyone in particular) may have had your fair share of struggles and were fortunate enough to beat the odds. That person walking down the street in pj's labelled as a "bum" living off social welfare, taxpayers money, may have a degree, have owned a home and at one point experienced a traumatic event which made them lose control of their life resulting in mental health issues etc etc. This is the case so often. The young people " having children without thinking" may not be educated enough to make these decisions for themselves, have grown up in the same circumstances and were not able to break that cycle. To them it is the norm, and struggle is actually an easier concept for them to grasp as a lot of the times they don't think that things are any different. Their role models may be the adults who have done nothing else but live off social and have baby after baby. Each person plays a role and while the people making the mistakes must be accountable for their actions, just because you know something is not okay, doesn't mean you are either equipped with the knowledge to inflict change in your life, or are even able to make the change. Anyone with background in behavioural and developmental psychology knows that it is easier said than done. It's a process and without the resources readily and constantly available to people when needed, change will struggle to occur.

Don't kick a dog when it's down, don't do everything for a person so they are unable to care for themselves, teach them and they will learn to rely on themselves.....the problem is psychosocial development in the earliest stages of life are what build a strong productive human being or a rocky foundation which churns out people into early adulthood and beyond, ill equipped to make the correct choices for themselves and their children and who are not mentally capable of choosing a productive path to take.

I read somewhere once, " It's easier to build up a child than it is to repair an adult. Chose your words wisely." So true....criticism is not productive and is actually a big part of the problem. Positive reinforcement is what tends to incur change in societies not negative reinforcement. Everyone knows that if you tell someone they are a bum for long enough they will eventually believe themselves at which point, damage is done and there really is no incentive for change.