Tragedy at a home daycare in Vaughan, ON

[Momof4]

Sandbox Sally, I see what you are saying because I was the single Mom of 4 children who worked a full time job and a part time job to pay the rent, food, clothing and all necessities of a family of 5. It was sheer hell and I missed so much of my children's lives. I did everything I could to keep us off welfare but my children suffered for it and I suffered for it.

But then I went on (it was called Mother's Allowance in the 90's) to go to college for a few years and it was horrible, we couldn't survive on that income so I took a part-time job as well and with all of the college classes and working, you guessed it, I hardly saw my children again.

Now, I have heard people on forums complain about parents who never spend time with their children and dump them at daycare and it makes me cringe. Who are they to judge? And the line in this thread about choosing the wrong partner, well I chose ALL the WRONG men!

I see your point. I don't like it when people make judgements of others because nobody has walked in anyone else's shoes.

But Momofnerds overheard someone saying something that admittedly would have made my mouth drop open too. I'm against people smoking around children so that would have put the cap on it for me. I have neighbours sitting on their 2nd floor balcony right this minute smoking pot while my clients are arriving to pick up their children. I had the welfare neighbour who had nothing better to do with his time other than to smoke nonstop and party with his friends during the day and I'm lucky I didn't lose any clients. It was horrible. It's hard not to judge them!

But there are so many kinds of prejudice, racial, sexual preferences, prejudice against people who are overweight, poverty stricken, handicapped and so much more. It all makes me furious when people judge! I'm not picking a side, I'm trying to point out that we should all support each other. Isn't that why we are here?